Mind Your Heart
Welcome to "Mind Your Heart," this cozy corner of the internet where Trina Deboree and Emily Reneé —your real-life Lorelei and Rory Gilmore duo—come together each week to chat about everything from mental health to the daily nuances of life. In each episode, we peel back the layers of topics like anxiety, depression, PTSD, and eating disorders with warmth, understanding, and a touch of humor (because otherwise, this just sounds depressing)!
Trina, an educator turned entrepreneur and mental health advocate, joins forces with her daughter Emily, a mental health coach and anorexia survivor, to share their journeys and insights in a way that feels like a heart-to-heart with old friends. The goal? To spark conversations that truly matter and to create a space where laughter meets healing.
Let's navigate the ups and downs of mental health together, making each day brighter and each challenge a little lighter. Grab your emotional support water bottle, put in your headphones, and join us while we mind our hearts for chats that comfort and inspire.
Mind Your Heart
Transforming Wedding Visions into Reality
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Ever wonder how to perfectly balance elegance and budget when planning a wedding? Join us on Mind Your Heart as we unravel Emily's journey towards a stunning February 2026 wedding that promises an "old money minimalist with an elevated luxury vibe." With the Florida heat in mind, we're on a quest for the ideal indoor venue that echoes simplicity through white flowers and charming whitewashed brick walls. From mismatched bridesmaids' dresses in striking shades to capturing unforgettable memories with photography, we aim to make wedding planning both exciting and inspiring.
Alongside Trina's tales of bridesmaid adventures and the weight of financial expectations, we tackle the age-old debate between hiring a DJ or a band. Unique touches like disposable cameras and a retro phone for voicemail guestbook entries add a modern twist to time-honored traditions. With stories of personal regrets and cherished moments, this episode paints a vivid picture of the intricate details and special touches that transform wedding dreams into reality. Embrace the blend of aesthetics and practicalities as we venture through the wedding preparations that promise a memorable celebration without breaking the bank.
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Hey, welcome to Mind your Heart Podcast, your favorite corner of the internet where we chat about all things mental health. I'm Emily.
Speaker 2:And I'm Trina. Together, we're like your real-life Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Each week, we'll bring you real conversations about the world of mental health and we will peel back layers on topics like anxiety, depression and much more.
Speaker 1:We're here to chat with you about the tough stuff, the everyday stuff and everything in between. So grab your emotional support water bottle I know we have ours. Find your comfiest chair or keep your eyes on the road and let's get into it. Are you ready, mom?
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Join us as we mind our hearts and hopefully make minding yours a little easier.
Speaker 1:Welcome back, welcome back to Mind your Heart with Daisy Mae Yep, it's you.
Speaker 2:Daisy's here today, so I'm Trina.
Speaker 1:Debery, oh, we did not introduce ourselves in the last episode. I'm Emily Olmostonski.
Speaker 2:Yay. So, if you missed, two weeks ago we shared that we were going to be, that the podcast would come every other Monday and that Emily's engaged Yay, emily and Jake are engaged. So that was very exciting and we went kind of along on that one and I ended up talking more about my perspective than I meant to, so I do not mean to and then I got so emotional. So today we're going to talk about, like, your vision, your vision boards and your, your plans or your thinking for wedding stuff, and it'll be a little bit shorter, but I know that I, everyone that's in your life, is excited to know your, you guys, and your thinking on wedding stuff.
Speaker 1:Well, I don't know where you want me to start. Like, what do you want?
Speaker 2:Well, we can start with your original wedding plan when you were like four and you planned to marry Barney and it was going to be a five dollar budget. So I think that we should go to that plan. I think not okay, so you tell us where, um like you, you have you've created vision boards yeah, um, we hired a wedding planner, which I'm very excited about.
Speaker 1:Her name is Lindsay and she's an angel sent from heaven. She's so good. She's already like helping us with stuff, like getting everything moving, and we sent her like our top five wedding venues that like we want to tour, um, so she's like getting like quotes and gonna set up some tours soon.
Speaker 1:so we'll start looking at venues, because that's really the first thing that like we need to like nail down so that way we can get like the date. Um, but we're thinking that the wedding will be in febru 2026. Um, so that way. Well, initially I was like I want the weather to be like nice, like around that time of year, cause normally in Florida February is like is not hot, but it's not like freezing cold anymore. Um, it's just like nice weather. And but then, like Jake and I were looking at venues and stuff why did you make that face?
Speaker 2:Because I thought it was still cold in February. Yeah, but it's not like freezing. Yeah, I mean we were in Florida, yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I thought you were being like no, it's hot. I'm like, no, it's not February, but I like I wanted it to, not for people to not feel like they're sweating, but I'm like we're not doing anything, like we're looking at venues indoors, like we're looking at like hotels and stuff like that, um, and so we're like I don't know why that was like, yeah, such an important factor. But um, I also I don't know- it's hot, it's, it's miserable, it is.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I got married in November and it was still hot. I was going to say November is not cold enough.
Speaker 1:in Florida it was.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was. Is that when I got? Yeah, it was still hot. I remember being so hot in my wedding dress going to the church.
Speaker 1:Well, it only starts getting cold in Florida in like late December and then getting cold in florida in like late december, and then january is when it's actually cold for like a week.
Speaker 2:It just depends. It's been different, like it was different for me growing up, and then the weather has changed. It's hotter, longer, it doesn't. The cold doesn't last very long. I hate that so much. Yeah, that stinks. All right so indoors. We know it's going to be indoors, which is always smart, in my opinion, in Florida. All right so, and then the date is going to be in February. Yeah, Twenty, twenty six, just not on Valentine's Day, so that's very exciting. What are, what are the kinds of venues that you're looking at Like?
Speaker 2:what's the overall like idea of it.
Speaker 1:OK, so like the vibe of the vibe, that's what of our wedding. Like the aesthetic of it. Okay, so like the vibe of the vibe, that's what of our wedding. Like the aesthetic of it will be um, kind of like an old money, like minimalist, but like elevated, like luxury type. Look like that's.
Speaker 1:That's the vibe that we're going for um, can you describe that a little more, because I need a more of a visual image yeah, so like um, as far as like when, when you're thinking, when I'm thinking about the ceremony, like I'm vividly thinking about my, our favorite venue, they have a picture on the knot which is like just I'm like oh, so pretty.
Speaker 1:Um, like they have a room that has like brick wall but it's like more of like a whitewashed, distressed kind of look. And then, um, like the aisle, like is very like simple. There's just like white flowers, like on either side, um, and then just like just simple chairs, like everything else is like, there's not like a big old arch or anything like that. Like it's just very, it's simple, but it's like elevated and classy, which is like where, like the old money, feel like comes in?
Speaker 2:Do you, would you think when, when you say that like I'm envisioning, remember when Ross married? Yeah, not Rachel.
Speaker 1:What's her name? Emily?
Speaker 2:When he married Emily that it was like yeah I mean, obviously the church was falling down, but it was still, yeah, it was pretty, so pretty, yeah, yeah kind of like that, but like a little more simple and like not as like hoity-toity okay because that like ross was like wearing like a tuxedo.
Speaker 1:Okay, so no tux, I don't know if it'll be like a full. I mean it'll like he'll wear something like that, but like, not like with like a Cumberbund.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like or a vest, I don't know. I don't love a vest, I don't know. I mean like that one, yeah um and like it he's like. So no bow ties like yeah he'll wear like a regular tie, like it, so like a bright, a nice suit. Yeah, so not necessarily a tux, but a nice suit. What about?
Speaker 1:okay, interesting, that's interesting I feel like that's definitely more of a thing now nowadays, um, but I like that yeah, and like a little bit of like a vintage-y feel Like what I want for the cake is like to just be like a one, one tier. I like to be one of those like vintage, like heart cakes that's like just white and it has like all the things on the edge and it says like just married. Okay, they're so cute. I think those cakes are so cute.
Speaker 2:That is funny. That's, that'll be a um. That's, that's, that's yeah. Publix could make that yeah my cake was made at Publix actually, yeah well, my our Lindsay was like.
Speaker 1:She was like you should just get a cake from Publix. It's so much cheaper. And I was like so much cheaper. Fine with me, wedding cakes, I like cake from Publix are outrageous oh yeah, um, eileen bought mine at from.
Speaker 2:That was a gift. Yeah, my cake, um, but it was actually. It didn't look like a cake from Publix, it was actually really pretty.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, publix is good yeah, they can make good cakes yeah, so I think that's.
Speaker 2:Um, yeah, I mean, because cakes can be like thousands of dollars, which is which is I would, yeah, and they don't taste good. They never taste good and sometimes you can also do a like a fake whatever and have a sheet cake in the back.
Speaker 1:People do that too, yeah no, I know, I would much rather have like a cute little dessert bar. Like money for that, like because I love sweets. So I'm like I want there to be some kind of dessert that would be cute.
Speaker 2:So, like something like that. I went to a wedding that they had like a candy bar and it was adorable. Yeah, it was very cute.
Speaker 1:Oh, my friend's wedding. They just had a popcorn bar and that was so good. I was like I love that.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:So like something like that. And then just have the cake be really simple, like really just for the act of cutting it, yeah, and then, like, as far as like the dress goes which, like Jake stop listening to this part, sir Um, I, I really want like a, a dress that can like transform, like, cause I want to be able, I want to wear like the same dress the whole time, but I want it to like look different for the reception.
Speaker 1:Um, so like, the dress yeah, the dress that I'm, that I really have like fallen in love with online, is like it has like this, really pretty like lace and like detailed like bodice and it's like a sweetheart neckline but like has like almost like leaves, like crocheted, like as the straps, pretty.
Speaker 2:So this is different than the one? That, no, it's the one. Oh, okay.
Speaker 1:I showed you and it's like a corset, like bodice area, and then, like the skirt is like this, just like complete, like plain, like ball gown type, like silhouette. Um, that's just like white and it's not like silk but it kind of like, has that look like of, just like a classic white, but that skirt is detachable and when you take the skirt off then like underneath, like the, the same like look of the bod, like the bodice part is is like a short mini, like skirt, so it's like a cocktail dress.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Um so you basically just add like the big ball gown skirt, like ceremony um, which, like I think I love that idea. Yeah, um because like I want to have fun and like dance and walk around and like be comfortable. Um, because I also think like for the reception, I'll probably like I won't. I'm not wearing heels, so I'll probably get like custom like Nike dunks or something like that, because that's just like very much like us.
Speaker 1:So, Jake definitely wants to wear like a nice, like classy shoe for the ceremony, but I'm guessing that we'll both do something like with shoes for the reception. What about a veil? The veil, something simple, simple.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Long, short, not short, I don't know, because like that wouldn't really go with like the style of dress that I want. Um, so, like long, but like very simple, like I don't want it to really have any details, like I literally just want it to be like basically a piece of tool yeah, well, that's basically what mine was.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I it was, it was a. I attached it to a thing that I made. That like was like a bun, like it went around my hair so my hair was up and then it was inside that thing and the veil attached to that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Do you want a veil in front? Yeah, I mean, are you gonna do that whole thing where they flip the veil over?
Speaker 1:no, no um, I want pictures with it, like we're like both under it and stuff like that. That's really the main reason I want a veil. Yeah, um, it's just for the pictures. Um, so yeah, and we're, we really want the same photographers that shot our engagement to do our wedding, so like we're our engagement to do our wedding, so like we're like, we're talking with them.
Speaker 2:Um, yeah, I'm like what else? What about um time of day like food, like stuff, like that?
Speaker 1:I don't really know. I mean like I don't really know anything about that yeah like and what that even like looks like. Like going into I do know, like for like bridesmaids dresses, like I will want it to be like kind of mixed matched, like I want all of my bridesmaids to feel comfortable and confident.
Speaker 1:Like I don't feel picky about what they wear. Like I'm probably just gonna give them a couple swatches because, like our colors are like white and black and then like a mauve pink and like a sage, like eucalyptus type green. Um, so like I'll probably give like a couple of swatches of like a green and like the pink to my bridesmaids and they can pick out a dress like with whatever in that color range. So that's good, yeah, um, so that way it's like very like it incorporates both of those colors and um, because I like that like look of like the mix match what about the groomsmen?
Speaker 2:will they wear a suit as well?
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, no, they'll probably just wear a black suit okay yeah and then um so maybe just have like a colored pocket square or something yeah, so usually like what about the size?
Speaker 2:because like size of what, like the number of people there like the guests. Yeah, uh, it'll be less than a hundred, yeah well, I mean usually it's like around a hundred dollars a person yeah you start thinking of that, so then take that into consideration.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, yeah yeah, well, I mean like we've had, like, our guest list curated for quite some time you have like 90 people on it I think. So I don't. I don't know what the exact number is, but um, and also like I'm like keeping in mind that, like some people won't come yeah, so yeah that's which, like you don't even think about. You're like at first, because I was talking to my friend who just got married. She's like, like you invite people and like you think like all these people are gonna come, but some of them won't be there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I was like, oh yeah, like that's true.
Speaker 2:But you have to assume that if they are yeah, for sure, yeah, yeah. So and so some things I know. That I know is that you like it's no kids like a no kids ceremony. I know that's important. And then, like what are the top? Like I'm willing to spend my money on this? The photographer. The photographer, that's the. Then, like what are the top? Like I'm willing to spend my money on this, the photographer the photographer.
Speaker 1:That's the most important thing.
Speaker 2:So um, so then you would even be less of a venue if you um had to like choose. Yeah, yeah, so the photographer is the most important. Yeah, okay, what would be the next thing? What about flowers?
Speaker 1:uh, well, I saw like some really pretty ways to do it like with even like fake flowers, which I know is like controversial but, um, and I can tell even you don't like that.
Speaker 2:But well, flowers was in my top five so okay, that's why I'm yeah, I don't care yeah, I cared about flowers and um nanny had some kind of a deal with the florist and they were absolutely beautiful.
Speaker 1:I mean I would love like yeah, really pretty flowers.
Speaker 2:But I also like I it's not like, I'm like if I don't feel judgment, I like you don't, yeah, yeah like if I don't get like, I'm willing to do whatever is like reasonably priced.
Speaker 1:I don't really feel like very like attached to the flowers or really to anything other than for the photographer. Okay, like there's not anything where I'm like I need.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that wasn't a judgment I had no, yeah, I know I and when I helped do a wedding for um, a friend of mine, yeah, we my other friend and I did it together and we did very simple werangeas, which is my favorite. We did hydrangeas in silver buckets and it turned out so beautiful, so it wasn't anything. I mean, it was a very limited budget, so it was. It wasn't anything crazy, but it turned out really pretty.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm okay with whatever saves us money. So flowers are not the top thing.
Speaker 2:Okay. So what about your bouquet? Because that was my bouquet, was so beautiful, but it was so heavy that I had to pass it off.
Speaker 1:I don't really care about that.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:Because I'm going to be holding it for like 20, 30 minutes and then I'll throw it to people later.
Speaker 2:So if that's Well, you don't have to. Yeah, I mean, you can do a little side bouquet that gets thrown.
Speaker 1:Yeah, whatever, I don't know that I really like you care about that, yeah.
Speaker 2:All right, so the photographer, that stuff is number one.
Speaker 1:I feel like it's probably important to both of us to have good entertainment like the DJ yeah you want a DJ, not a band.
Speaker 2:Yeah, not a band. Yeah, DJ, yeah we want a DJ? Yeah, that's an important thing. What about? What are we forgetting? The venue, the food.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, obviously I want the food to be good, but I think that'll depend on the venue.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Because we'll have to like go to the actual venue and be like let's taste what you've got, because, like I think, some of them that we like sent to Lindsay are like it's going to be like, oh, this, you have to get it through the hotel or whatever. Which is fine if it's like all together, that's just easier, yeah, and like less vendors to.
Speaker 2:Is the food? Is that like an important part, or?
Speaker 1:you're just kind of like yeah, whatever. I mean I feel like it's important because I want. I don't want people to be like this sucks yeah, yeah but I also like I'm not serving like a steak dinner yeah, everyone, yeah, you know, yeah, yeah so, like I mean also to me.
Speaker 1:I'm like wedding food is wedding food? Like, will you do a sit down? Will you have a buffet? I don't know. I don't know that I really want a buffet. I don't love that. Yeah, like for me, like, but I did really like. I keep talking about my friend who got married. She like it was like less than a month ago she did a buffet. But it was like there were people there that like asked like what do you want?
Speaker 1:And they served it. I like that. I'm like I'm okay with that. I don't love at least like for me to like have the guests to go and like pick things out. I just feel like that's I don't know. I just don't like it. It's just not my favorite, like I would prefer it for somebody like I want them to feel like served Okay, whether it be like they're walking up with their plate and somebody's putting it on there or like.
Speaker 1:And I did really when I went to somebody's wedding a few years ago and they like came with the plate or whatever. That was great, but like I'm like that's probably way more yeah. So I'm like I would be totally fine if it was a buffet style, but like there were people I would want people to be like manning that yeah.
Speaker 2:OK.
Speaker 1:Because I also think that's better for cleanliness. Yeah, but that's just something that I think about yeah, I wouldn't want like a bunch of hands on my food.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what so? What? What is is something? What about, like special dances? Do you have like I know, like things about that?
Speaker 1:I don't know. That feels difficult to me, um, because like my dad won't be invited, so that'll be, be like something that's like different. Like you'll walk me down the aisle and I don't know. I thought about, like you and I like doing a dance, like I thought that would be cute, that would be cute. So I think like something like that Elphaba.
Speaker 1:Galinda yeah, yeah, but like I'm sureake and his mom will have one like um and maybe like, even like grandparents or something like maybe he'll like dance with grammy and I'll dance with steve or something. So, um, yeah, I don't know, I guess, like I haven't thought about like all those little things yet, especially because I feel so relieved that when those things, when I do have to make those decisions, like yeah, yeah I'd be like tell me what you want with this and I'll be like okay, yeah like she, like I, don't have to think about like going down the list, like and you don't, you're right and you also don't have to.
Speaker 2:Like you just thought I had a facial expression about flowers. I, I didn't, I don't care, like I, whatever you want is what I want. Um, I asked what your top things were because it's like, as far as prior, you don't have like an open-ended budget, so it's like no what is what is a priority to you? What is it? And like we had different priorities, you and I, so it was um well, like my we. You know your dad cared about having an open bar for five hours.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, that's not a thing for you yeah, that was a huge expense yeah, we will not have an open bar at our wedding. Well, if, if we have like alcohol, it'll be like beer and wine and it'll be a cash bar. Because, like I just don't want, neither of us want that.
Speaker 2:We're not drinkers.
Speaker 1:so there won't be like hard liquor, I mean, unless somebody brings a flask, but which is whatever which people do, do whatever you want. Yeah, I'm just not paying for it, yeah, so yeah, how about dancing?
Speaker 2:So there will be dancing. Oh yeah, yeah, a DJ, because I want to have fun, like that's the thing, Like with a dj, like you want somebody who can like get people on the dance floor for sure. Do you have any?
Speaker 1:um, do you want to do any group dancing, do you?
Speaker 2:no, probably not, okay yeah, yeah, I mean, I'm just. These are just all like I'm thinking of.
Speaker 1:I mean, I was a bridesmaid seven times this episode to my wedding planner yeah so that way you should be like oh okay, good, noted yeah, no, yeah, she'll ask you, she'll.
Speaker 2:She'll have all these things I've been to. I was a bridesmaid seven times and I know that's insane, isn't that insane? Seven different dresses, yeah, and some extravagant. One of my bridesmaid's dresses was a Vera Wang, so like that was, did you have to?
Speaker 1:pay for it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, did you have to pay for it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I feel like I paid a little bit less because my friend's mom, my good friend Eileen I'm going to give her a shout out Eileen's mom she was determined that I needed extra length and I'm like no, I don't need extra length, I'm tall in my waist. I actually had many shops of bridesmaid shops tell me that I was the perfect size for bridesmaids dresses, because that was the size. The samples came in, yeah, and I was like, which was always too big for everyone else but fit me, and I didn't have to have anything ever hemmed, yeah, and so I was so. But so she ordered extra length. She paid for that, but then I had to pay to alter it and get it chopped off. So it was like what in the world? Yeah, so that was the one that I'm like why is this so long? Yeah, and then Eileen's, like my mom, ordered extra length. I'm like what? So? Yeah, I feel like they helped me with that dress too, because that was expensive.
Speaker 2:Um, I had a couple of brides that did that. One, my one friend, picked a very expensive raw silk dress and and, and they had a very large budget for the wedding and I, I was like broke. I mean, I wasn't still. I think I was still in college when she got married. So either that or I was just teaching, like I was broke. And so I remember that they helped with the dress, which is, you know, very kind and considerate. Obviously they cared about me being in the wedding, so that was really nice.
Speaker 2:But, yeah, lots of bridesmaids' dresses, lots of weddings, and every wedding was so different. Everyone was so different and I know, like what was important to me and what, and then some of the things that were important to your dad that I wouldn't have cared about, like if it was somebody else, yeah, I didn't get the dress that I wanted. Like that was a big regret. That was a regret. That was it's still a regret. I'm like I'm still upset about that this many years later and I'm not married.
Speaker 2:So I wanted this dress and this girl. I was trying it on and this other bride came in and she wanted to try it on and they took it from me and I was actually gonna buy it, like right then, because I bought my own dress, yeah and um and I it was like it was like a princess dress, it was like tulle all the way and it had a thick band like a satin band around the bottom yeah and then the top was very plain and simple and, um, and it was like a dress for me, yeah, and I really loved it.
Speaker 2:The dress I ended up picking, I still felt good and I loved the back of it.
Speaker 1:It was like but it wasn't your. Say yes to the dress.
Speaker 2:No, it wasn't yeah and um, I mean so don't pick the wrong dress I will not yeah, or the wrong person. I did love having my long white gloves. Yeah, no.
Speaker 1:I will not have that. Yeah, I wouldn't pick that now.
Speaker 2:That would be the last thing I would ever pick. But, at the time it just felt so. Like royal yeah royal, I don't know. Funny. So that's Okay, that's exciting. What are we missing? I feel like we're missing something.
Speaker 1:So food, so food. We've talked about um flowers photography. Well, like some of the oops, what's something that some of the like little details that I care about? Um like we want to have, like disposable cameras, like yeah at all the tables, um. Well, actually I think we're gonna do like banquet style tables, so it'll be like one, like a couple long tables, um, but like I want to have like a bunch.
Speaker 2:I'm confused, like at the reception yeah.
Speaker 1:I mean, okay, go ahead yeah, like a long table okay yeah so like there's a bunch of people on one side okay, okay, okay, okay, yeah, okay, I get it.
Speaker 2:yeah, banquet style, okay, yeah, I'm sorry, I could not get round out of my mind yeah, yeah, all right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I think, like I want, we want that and I really, ever since I found this, like I am like I need this at our wedding. It's called After the Tone. It's like basically like this, like retro looking phone and you like people can leave like a voicemail. And so and like you can get it like on vinyl, like afterwards, like they'll send you the recording, obviously, but um, I think that is so cute yeah so I really would like to do that.
Speaker 1:Um, that was like always something I was like, yep, I want to do that so I'm like as soon as I know our date.
Speaker 2:I'm booking after the tone um, because I ship you the phone and everything like yeah, and you can pick the color, so um it, it and it's so much better than a guest book, I mean, which is also cool, but it's. It's like you get to hear their voice. Yeah, I think that would be. I think that would be so cool to have that, like I would actually want that right now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think that's really cool. You get to hear like what everybody would and also like towards the end of the night people are like, oh yeah, whatever, and I mean I have that from the wedding video?
Speaker 2:yeah, um, for sure, but um, which is also fun to see. Yeah, but um, but I like the after the tone thing sounds cool yeah, so like I definitely I've I've always wanted to do that.
Speaker 1:I don't know like I care about like getting my nails done.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Like those little things I feel like there, when it comes to like wedding stuff, like I don't feel like super, like uptight about anything, at least yet, not yet. Yeah, maybe that'll change, but I just feel like I'm'm like I don't want it to be stress like, I want it to just be like exactly like what we want it to be. And if it's not like and it not have to be like some perfect whatever like it like, however it's going to be, will be perfect yeah, like that's just how I feel.
Speaker 1:I'm like just taking some of the pressure off of it, especially because I'm like I'm really excited about like the honeymoon and like the stuff like beforehand, like doing like a bachelorette, like trip, like with like my friends and stuff like that. Like I'm excited for that, um, and just like some of like the lead up and and whatnot. And oh, one thing that's super important to me is like doing our own vows.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I've always been like we're writing our own vows. I want that to be very personal and like we're having or we haven't asked him yet, but we're going to ask somebody that is like close, personal to us to officiate. So yeah, we, we're gonna have that. Like those.
Speaker 1:The more personal things are what I care about, rather than like the stuff for like the look, I guess if that makes sense like I care more about how it feels than like what other people see, because, like and one thing Lindsay had said to me she was like the thing about the photos is like that's the only thing from your wedding day other than, obviously, the after the tone thing that you get to keep. Yeah, the rest of it is like a memory that you have and like an experience which, like, is obviously important, but like you physically get to have these photos forever, the experience is something that you hold on to too, For sure.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and she was like that's super important. And she had said she was like I want it to feel like you would never want to do it again, because you couldn't replicate how perfect it was. She was like that's my goal for all of my couples. And I was like perfect goal for like all of my couples and I was like perfect, that is exactly what I want.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, I I feel like I'm not, I'm trying not to be like high strung or high stress like, and just care about the things that are, like the relationships with the people, yeah that we will, that will be there.
Speaker 1:Like I'm just more excited to have all those people that we love, like in one space. Like I think that's so cool. Yeah, so yeah, and we'll have like a sweetheart table. I always wanted to do that, like, so that way it's like there is a moment where we're just sitting, the two of us. Yeah, yeah, because it'll barely be like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so, yeah, yeah, I don't know if that's it, but I think that's cool, I think that's great. Yeah, that's exciting. Thank you for sharing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Thank you for asking. Yeah, I'm excited. When I was talking to Lindsay about this in the beginning I was like the little Emily in me is like this is so crazy, Like it's actually like really happening, like this is an actual thing. It's actually like really happening, like this is an actual thing, that's happening yeah so it like feels like it doesn't hit me like that. I'm like gonna be a bride, you're a bride yeah, I sent you that picture.
Speaker 2:Did you get that picture, the bride picture from when you were little? No, you didn't. I don't think so I sent it to your phone. You were dressed in the bride dress and you're sitting in front of the ottoman.
Speaker 1:I don't remember, maybe I did wait.
Speaker 2:Let me look, all right I just remember you dressing up as a bride and I thought you were on the ottoman. I thought I remembered you sitting on the ottoman, but you're actually sitting in front of it and I mean it's a picture of a picture, so it's not like it's that great.
Speaker 1:But it's not showing up in like our texts.
Speaker 2:All right, I'll have to look, maybe it didn't send.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I don't see it. Oh wait this one. Yes, that's so cute.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that's cute, Don't you look? You look beautiful.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it just looks so like, I don't know, like just sweet yeah, so pure For sure. Yeah, so pure For sure, yeah, All right well, all right, well, I think that's it. I think that's it too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all right, we'll see you in a couple weeks.
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