Mind Your Heart
Welcome to "Mind Your Heart," this cozy corner of the internet where Trina Deboree and Emily Reneé —your real-life Lorelei and Rory Gilmore duo—come together each week to chat about everything from mental health to the daily nuances of life. In each episode, we peel back the layers of topics like anxiety, depression, PTSD, and eating disorders with warmth, understanding, and a touch of humor (because otherwise, this just sounds depressing)!
Trina, an educator turned entrepreneur and mental health advocate, joins forces with her daughter Emily, a mental health coach and anorexia survivor, to share their journeys and insights in a way that feels like a heart-to-heart with old friends. The goal? To spark conversations that truly matter and to create a space where laughter meets healing.
Let's navigate the ups and downs of mental health together, making each day brighter and each challenge a little lighter. Grab your emotional support water bottle, put in your headphones, and join us while we mind our hearts for chats that comfort and inspire.
Mind Your Heart
MYH 29: The Art of Connection: 25 Questions to Deepen Your Relationships
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What happens when a mother and daughter sit down to ask each other 25 thoughtfully crafted questions? Magic, vulnerability, and unexpected connection.
We stumbled upon these "connection questions" on social media and decided to put them to the test. What followed was a journey through memories, dreams, challenges, and revelations that surprised even us – and we've been talking to each other our whole lives!
From discussing travel aspirations (European honeymoon plans!) to reflecting on age-specific challenges (finding your people in your twenties versus embracing aging in your fifties), each question opened doors to conversations we might never have had otherwise. We shared our role models (spoiler: we're on each other's lists), laughed about favorite memories (wedding dress shopping makes the cut), and even tackled tougher topics like overcoming personal challenges.
The beauty of these questions isn't just in the answers but in the framework they provide. They create space for meaningful dialogue where vulnerability becomes strength and where skipping uncomfortable questions is perfectly acceptable. As we navigated topics ranging from lighthearted to profound, we discovered new dimensions to our relationship.
Whether you're looking to strengthen bonds with your adult child, reconnect with a parent, or simply deepen any important relationship in your life, these questions offer a powerful starting point. Try them yourself – we'd love to hear if they help you feel more connected too!
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Hey, welcome to Mind your Heart Podcast, your favorite corner of the internet where we chat about all things mental health.
Speaker 2:I'm Emily and I'm Trina. Together, we're like your real-life Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Each week, we'll bring you real conversations about the world of mental health and we will peel back layers on topics like anxiety, depression and much more.
Speaker 1:We're here to chat with you about the tough stuff, the everyday stuff and everything in between. So grab your emotional support water bottle I know we have ours. Find your comfiest chair or keep your eyes on the road and let's get into it. Are you ready, mom?
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Join us as we mind our hearts and hopefully make minding yours a little easier, hi.
Speaker 1:Hi, I need a drink from my emotional support water bottle.
Speaker 2:So today we are talking about. I found these. I was actually scrolling along on social media and it was something that wasn't upsetting. For once it was connecting. It was it's basically connecting with your teen, but in this case it's connecting with your adult child, or could even be connecting with your child. I think you could use this in any way. It's more like connection kinds of questions, which I think is pretty cool. It was 25 different ones, so we're going to do it like rapid fire. I'm trying to find the author.
Speaker 1:So are you asking me these questions, or is it a question?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we're going to ask we're going to both answer, but I'll just tell the question. Aslan Amin, who is parenting single mom, life lifestyle person, so I definitely want to give her.
Speaker 1:Well, we can link the questions below.
Speaker 2:All right, okay, so what's been the highlight of your day today? And maybe you even want to say the highlight of the month, or the highlight of the year, or highlight of anything, but it's a rapid fire, so oh uh, just the highlight moment of 2025 or of the year, you mean like just a year from today, whenever, okay well or even today.
Speaker 1:It could be just today okay, well, the highlight I don't know, that's just that's. I can't do these rapid fire, I'm too slow, I need time to think and I elaborate well um you go first.
Speaker 2:All right, because we've got 25 questions, so we don't we can't do a super long story. Well, just a quick highlight that comes to my, comes to my mind. Well, it is going wedding dress shopping with you. Like, that was a highlight for me. Yes, that's the most recent one that I remember.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean I would say getting engaged, going wedding dress shopping with you, getting to like book some vendors, meeting new people Recently I've met some like new people that I'm like working with but also like becoming friends with, so yeah, cool.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all right, and then you would probably not. If you're going to use some of these questions to make connections with family members or friends, you probably don't want to do a rapid fire. You probably want to give them the response.
Speaker 1:You probably do want to elaborate yeah.
Speaker 2:You wanted them to be able to like share. Anyway, is there something you're looking forward to this week?
Speaker 1:This week I probably will go to Pilates this week. I've been really enjoying doing that, so yeah, looking forward to that. I don't really enjoying doing that. So, yeah, that is cool. Looking forward to that, I don't really have any plans. This may be booking our photographer and videographer. I'm excited to get that, like, checked off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, that's good. Yeah, I think for me, I'm meeting with a children's book author, cool ABC yeah, it's ABC Books, I think that's what it's called it. Abc yeah, it's ABC books, I think that's what it's called. She it's like a she's a she. Also, they publish I I'm been in touch with her publishing company so she just put out these adorable, nonfiction, beautiful photo books for kids about the national parks and I'm like, and she's like I'd like to send you a copy, she'd like to send them to me which Kobe Yamada, which is one of my favorite children's books writers, has sent me books and I have gotten to do reviews and stuff, and so they're going to send that. And I'm like I have some STEM ideas for this. I'm like it would be really cool to do some challenges based on saving the national parks, because that's an issue that we have to talk about right now, in this time. So I'm meeting with her this weekend. I'm excited about that.
Speaker 1:Cool, yeah, that'll be so. When is that Wednesday? Okay, yeah, that's exciting. Yeah, what's something that made you laugh recently At dinner on Thursday, jake started doing Austin Powers impression Dr Evil and it made me laugh Because he does the voice so spot on.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, that's funny. I can't think of anything off the top of my head. My friend Alexis makes me laugh a lot, so it's probably something to do with her and her sarcasticness, but um, I can't think off the top of my head what it is. I'd have to go scrolling through my phone and then I I'm sure I would remember oh, jake, and I also did the.
Speaker 1:I know I got it the trend where you like the person like makes the face and then the other person does the sound. Have you seen that? No, um, we did that and that was very funny. I'm gonna post that, so okay, all right so now I know.
Speaker 2:So alexis and I have this, this running joke with each other, where we send each other ai pictures of home and like tiny houses, and we're're like look at these stairs, cause the nothing is, something is off in the AI picture every time and the stairs will like lead up to nothing, or they'll lead up to a door, or they'll have this giant gap at the like, the stairs won't be evenly proportioned. It'll be like a really huge step and then tiny steps and tiny and then a huge step, and so we'll or we'll be like there's no railing upstairs and you're like well, hopefully no one falls off and dies. You know, falls off to the coffee table. So we've been like making that joke for over a month now and that's been fun, all right. If you could visit any place in the world, where would it be and why?
Speaker 1:Well, europe, like somewhere in europe, and that's probably where we're going, like for our honeymoon.
Speaker 1:So, really, yeah, wow, yeah, we're thinking about like, going to like, like paris and like rome and see yeah so we're doing a lot of credit card hacking right now so that way we can get like points and stuff, and, um, it is working well, so cool. We're planning on like trying to figure that out and see like, basically, if we could pay for it with the points that we get, because I mean like it's easy to get points on these cards when, like, we're spending like large chunks of money at once.
Speaker 1:So, um, yeah, I want to go to europe, I want to see like those different places and we were talking about it last night and I was like, like jake mentioned it just like kind of in passing, um, because he was telling me something about the cards and and he was like I figured like you know, like we'll stay like maybe in paris one day and I was like, oh, I was like oh, that's so cool, like I just got really excited oh, I have the travel books then you can um borrow them when I'm finished yeah, and I'll be finished in July, because I was going to say my place is Ireland and we're going to Ireland um in July, and then we're going to London and Paris, so I'm very excited about that.
Speaker 2:Oh, so cool yeah. Yeah, I've always wanted to go to Ireland and I have lived in England, but I've never been to Paris, and I'm excited about that too. I've been studying French for 742 days straight. I have a 742 day streak, isn't that crazy? Yeah, I'm fighting Alzheimer's.
Speaker 1:I need to practice my Spanish because I think that's like the primary language in Peru. I'm going to Peru in May.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, I was like you said, you were going to Europe. No, no, no.
Speaker 1:When I go to Peru in May I'm like their stuff is in Spanish.
Speaker 2:All right. So the next question you could ask would be to your teenager what's the most challenging part of being a teenager for you? So let's do our age. What's the most challenging part of being a 25 year old? At this point, you'll be 25. Yeah, Happy birthday.
Speaker 1:I think that it's probably the fact that people my age are all over the spectrum, like there are people who are 25 and who act like they're 13.
Speaker 1:And then there are people who are 25 and like have children and like are mature and like care about like working on themselves and stuff, but normally those people are not actually 25. They're normally older than I am. So, um, it's like such a it's a weird thing when, like you're figuring out your community, I like feel like I've finally gotten to the point, just probably this past year, where I have found like my people. But I think that that's really difficult just in your 20s in general, because it's hard to find and we've now like created a society of like all digital things, so like meeting people in real life is like a little more uncomfortable and awkward, um, and it's just like not as natural, so, so like it takes extra effort, especially if you're an introvert, which I am. So I think that's probably the hardest thing and, honestly, I think if you asked any other person in their 20s, that they would say something similar.
Speaker 2:So it's interesting that that feels like a deterrent at this point, because I'm the opposite. Well, my challenge at 53, I'll still be 53 when this comes out, almost 54, but is like getting old is a is a. I remember my grandmother was like you're not going to like it, trina girl, that's what she used to call me, trina girl, and I think of her so much. I'm like you're right, grandmother, and it's not. I mean, I think it's partly your body, like watching your body change. You know your skin, your hair, your bones. So that is hard. And then, like it was at any time in my life when my body changed, like when I was pregnant, and you know when things, that major things that happened to you that you are like, oh so.
Speaker 1:But it's also and also, we live in a world where aging is looked at as like a bad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, negative thing it's this more, that like I can't remember things as well, like I'm not as fast as I used to be, my brain used to work so fast and and people would get frustrated because they couldn't keep up, and now I'm like I feel like that, so that that's hard, but I do, but I do. I actually like the digital part because I've met so many like really wonderful people that I have become friends with online and I have like like three, three to four people, groups of people that I meet with every week and and so that's I. I mean, like that's how they live all over the place. They don't live where I live, so they live all over. So I think that's really cool. All right, who is your role model and what qualities do you admire in them?
Speaker 1:I don't think I would say one specific person Like. I think I like admire different things about different people. Like I would say you like are a role model for me, like in the way of like unconditional love and like strength and like courage. Um, my friend Grace is like such a good example of like loving people like Jesus, like she is kind, like the kindest person ever. Um, so, like I think in that way, like my friend Dakota is like so smart, like it's, like it's it's. I'm like, oh my gosh, like she knows these things that I'm like whoa. Like like I think my friends, like people that I'm close with like are role models for me.
Speaker 1:Mick Zazon, like I think the way that she shows up like online and is honest and vulnerable and like her true, authentic self, like despite what people say and like. So people like that like I would say like it's not of thinking about things that like sometimes I forget or like wouldn't have known if I didn't know her like just the people that I surround myself with, like I feel like are the people that are my role models.
Speaker 2:No, I agree, because when you were saying, of course, at first I thought of, like professionally, and I'm like, oh, sir Ken Robinson, who was really big in he was British but he was really big in children like learning and feeling like we need a different, we need to do something differently, and focusing on the element where people are passionate and they can use that to to make a living, like when you have found that your element. And then, like Amy Porterfield I am, you know, have always been a huge fan of her love, her love, love, her honesty and vulnerability and her work ethic. But then, like you, you as well, like you're been a role model for me too. You've reminded, you know you're such an example of grace and love and God, like your faith is so strong and it's always been like a, you know, like a pillar for me, even you and you and Jake together, like your love and your commitment to each other and you, the way that you respond to each other.
Speaker 2:And then, like I've never seen love like that before. And and even Jackson and his way of just like trying to figure new things out and being persistent in his emotional intelligence. I'm always like in awe at some of the things that he comes up with, and and then even even like my mom and Steve, as far as, like she always can find the silver lining, and that is very hard for me. And when she can't find it, it's like, oh my gosh, I feel kind of shaken because she's like always been able to be like it's, you know, positive Polly and.
Speaker 2:Steve's so smart and he's got so much advice to give and and he's just quirky and funny and so that you know. And then my brother, who I have looked up to for a long time and his creativity, and I just think he, I think, I think he's so smart and I, yeah, so there's a lot of people, my friends. I've got a lot of friends that I feel that way about there that, you know, show me different perspectives and help me to see different things and yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, cool, all right, so that was not a rapid fire. If you could learn any skill or hobby, what would it be?
Speaker 1:um well, I really wanted to learn how to rollerblade, but I just don't have the like. No fear anymore now that I'm not a child. Um, so maybe that, but I got roller skates recently. I do know how to do that, enough to where I can like stand up and not feel like I'm going to die, but I'm still not a pro.
Speaker 2:So maybe that would be my goal Roller skating and rollerblading, roller skating yeah, I like that, I would like to. I mean, this doesn't sound fun to me, but it would be something that would be beneficial to me if I actually learned more about photography, if. I actually understood more about photography. That would be better. What I like to do is like interior decorating and woodworking and stuff like that. What's your favorite memory from when you were younger?
Speaker 1:I don't know. Whenever somebody asks me that question, it's hard for me to just think on the spot because I'm like what? Yeah, in what context? Montana tickets Like I was so excited and that was like such an elaborate thing, like planned by like you and dad, and like the way, like it was whatever, and then like we got to go, like that was so fun and like I just remember being like emotional, like so, like that would probably be one of my favorite things because I was like it was the first time I experienced a real concert and I remember like crying, yeah like I was like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:Like so cool. So yeah, probably that experience overall would be something I would say yeah, that's fun.
Speaker 2:Um, yeah, that's hard for me too. The thing that came to my mind first was like playing in the play play room at my grandmother's house um, and so that's what. And like playing with decks and we would pretend like we were swiss family robinson um out in this tree that she had in her backyard, and yeah. So that's what comes to my mind when I first think about it, but I'd have to think more on it yeah, I feel like there's also not just like one yeah there's multiple all right.
Speaker 2:What's a book, movie or song that has impact significantly impacted, impacted you. That's not how they worded it, but I'm just gonna go with it had a significant impact on.
Speaker 1:You impacted me. Yeah, I thought you were just gonna ask my favorite favorite book, movie or song. Well, you could do that.
Speaker 2:Well, they're different for each one.
Speaker 1:Book-wise, the Summer I Turned Pretty is my favorite series. It just makes me feel good and I loved reading it. And it was probably my first books when I got back into reading that like made me love reading again. So that even though that's a little bit silly because it's not like it's not like anything like important, but like it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's not the Bible. Yeah, yeah, yeah, which would probably have a significant point, a significant impact on you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah. Song wise I mean oh, there's so many.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's. I can't pick just one. Yeah so yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, I think that's good. I would, I mean, like when I first think of the first book that I think of that, like really the book that I loved more than anything was Little Women, but but the book that has really made me understand Like people's perspectives and being like how can we behave? In certain ways have been like these historical fiction books that I've been reading by Kristen Hanna, and the four winds and the nightingale was so it's like, yeah, wow, so those are have had an impact on me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a question I'd have to think on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, me too. I feel like I need, I would need more.
Speaker 1:I need to like research a little bit, I agree.
Speaker 2:I feel like, yeah, need to like research. Yeah, a little bit I agree. I feel like, yeah, I definitely. And then like movie that I could.
Speaker 1:There's like so many so the first one that came to mind with movie was the barbie movie I loved the barbie movie and also wicked recently yeah, that was good because they all have like intentional, like meaning messages.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah I felt that kind of went that way about the Greatest Showman. I really liked that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, greatest Showman too.
Speaker 2:And the Dark Knight Rises was one that like had an impact. For lots of reasons, though, because not only the message, but the like you know all the thing that went around it, and there was a mass shooting and the lights going out and Jackson being terrified, yeah, yeah, so, um, all right. What's something you wish you could change about?
Speaker 1:the world. Oof, we don't have all the time for that. I was going to say I don't have a short answer for that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, kindness, practice kindness and love.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's the general consensus.
Speaker 2:So yeah, you know accept people when they're, even when they're different than you are. Yeah, so if you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be?
Speaker 1:uh, probably, I guess, like not to care so much, just in general, because I feel like that is one of the things. Like because I'm thinking more like when I was a teenager, like the like from like I don't know, 11 to 19, I like just cared about everything and like I think caring about things is important. But I also think that, like, sometimes you just have to be like I don't care, like I don't care how I look, I don just have to be like I don't care, like I don't care how I look, I don't care what other people think. Like just being more like okay, like it is what it is. Like I feel like that would be something that I'd be like you waste so much energy, so much time on caring about every little thing and you don't need to do that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would definitely tell myself to get out of my own way.
Speaker 1:yeah, that's good um what's a recent accomplishment you're proud of recent accomplishment I don't know I'm I haven't accomplished anything, I don't know like just working with my clients, I guess, like signing another client, like signing on to another project, like those things I'm, I'm proud of, like I mean like working through the things that are going on, like in therapy, like I mean even like when Jake and I, like we're working in couples counseling, like things like that that we've like overcome, like certain like barriers or things that we were struggling with, like those feel like really important accomplishments, absolutely, absolutely so, like stuff like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was going to say, yeah, mindset stuff that I've been doing with theresa, like learning to forgive myself and, um, like myself, yeah, that's good. Okay, how do you like to relax and unwind when you're feeling stressed?
Speaker 1:um there, well, I like to do nothing. Um, or take a gummy and then watch a show um wax my eyebrow or pluck my eyebrow like self-care stuff.
Speaker 2:Self-care, yeah, yeah I, I was gonna say like work out, I mean that's, that's, that's how I relax, like what brings me, like like peace and calmness, that does not sound relaxing to me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I, I, I get on the Peloton and within 10 minutes I'm already like I feel better, I feel like I can breathe, um and also lifting weights, like getting stronger. Especially at this age, this is probably the strongest I've ever been like lifting. As far as like weights that I can lift, I wasn't like in shock that yesterday I was doing the tricep machine, which I don't do very often. I mean, I didn't used to do it, but like it's up to what was it 70 pounds. I'm like I thought that was a lot, and then, like I can curl a 30 pound 70 pounds I'm like I thought that was a lot, and then, like I can curl a 30 pound, um, 30 pounds, and that I'm like that's pretty good. So, yeah, anyway, I. I also like to watch TV Like I have become a TV person and I like to listen to podcasts a lot. I listen to podcasts all day long and music. Okay, what do you appreciate most about your family?
Speaker 1:um a lot. I think there's a lot. It's also different per person.
Speaker 1:I would say, because everybody has like different things that they like offer and in their personality and who they are. Um, if I was gonna say for you, like I appreciate the way that you show up, I appreciate the way that you love me, like I appreciate the things that, like you've sacrificed over like my life, like there's a lot, there's just so much. Like I could just go on and on. Like if I was talking about Jackson, like I appreciate his humor, like that's something that I love about him, like he's so funny. Um, I like Nanny, like I appreciate the way that, like she just loves so hard and like she is like always believed that like I could be a superhero. Basically, yeah, I feel like it would do. It depend per person.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree, I think, um, yeah, I mean, you know I've told you before that I felt like you changed my life and, um, and you definitely drew me. You drew me to God and you want, made me want to be a better person. I wanted to be worthy of having you as a daughter and so, and you also have been like such a cheerleader for me, a supporter, and I really always I appreciate that so much. And and, yeah, you know, with Jackson, I Jackson is great about checking on me, like he call, he calls me very regularly and like sometimes it's just like hey, mom, how's it going? Hey, mom, how's it going. That's what he always how we're doing today, mom, and we're doing good, jackson, and and sometimes it's just for a few minutes, I love you, I love you too. Bye, no-transcript.
Speaker 2:And um, yeah, and he, and also I appreciate his insight, it's just so interesting to me how his brain works and he's so funny. Um, yeah. And then nanny, like she has never given up on me, like she, she fights for me. Like she, she tries to protect me in the best way that she can. Yeah, and yeah, I, I appreciate that. And Steve, like I appreciate what he brings to our family too.
Speaker 2:And yeah how he loves us and yeah, yeah, and so Jake and I. I'm just so thankful for Jake and Jake's um steadiness and his love for you and his um and also I think he can be funny too. Yeah and yeah. So I feel like I'm forgetting some people, but I didn't even name as many people.
Speaker 1:I didn't even name my own fiance, so yeah, well, I mean yeah.
Speaker 2:And then I'm like I think of a lot of my friends as family as well, like my friend, my friend you know, melanie and Alexis, and Christie and Carrie. Yeah, all right, we could go on and on. Okay, is there something you'd like to learn from me or know about my life when I was your age?
Speaker 1:I don't know. I feel like I've asked you the things that I wanted to know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what was a mess at your age?
Speaker 1:I don't know.
Speaker 2:I guess I was graduating from college and it took me forever because I changed my mind at the last minute. I'm pretty sure around your age I moved to Atlanta. I might've been moving to Atlanta at your age. Um, I graduated and then I lived in I've run out of room in someone's house and then I, dad and I broke up for the thousandth time and I was like I gotta, I gotta get out of here, like I gotta get out of here.
Speaker 2:And so I moved to Atlanta and lived with my high school and college best friend and we lived in a one bedroom apartment in Buckhead. We shared a bedroom and because it was a very expensive part of Atlanta but it was really pretty and yeah, we shared a room and but you know, she was worked in a Nick nick in the NICU at Grady hospital, which is a big hospital in Atlanta, and, um, so she worked nights. So I like feel like you know we were on totally different schedules. Yeah, yeah, but I was, I was, I was trying to figure myself out at your age yeah, I learned that I could survive without your dad.
Speaker 2:That is one thing Like I. I learned that when I was in Atlanta. But I but I love that I would never not love him. I got I felt like I healed a lot that when I was there, but that I stopped trying to stop loving him, like I was just going to love him for the rest of our lives, which I guess is still true. I mean I don't, you know, I'm not with him, I don't want to be with him, but I mean I love him, I'll always I think I'll just always love him.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:All right, is there um what's a goal you have for yourself in the next year?
Speaker 1:Uh, to do less, mm, I need to do less. Yeah, also my counselor. She agrees with that.
Speaker 2:I need to still get out of my own way. I need to figure, I need to figure, I need to figure my thing out. I also want to be really grateful for what I have been able to do. Um, I don't want to give up on my self or my dreams. So if you could solve one global issue, what would it be and how would you do it?
Speaker 1:Oh, I don't have a simple answer for that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, me either. We can skip that one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, one.
Speaker 1:I'd only have to choose one. There's so many global issues I'd want to fix. Yeah One, I'd only have to choose one. There's so many global issues I'd want to fix.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it would be like. Can we at least recognize some of them that are a global issue? I would start there. But anyway, what's a recent challenge you faced and how did you overcome it?
Speaker 1:That feels like an interview question.
Speaker 2:They always ask that in an interview they always ask that in an interview um a recent challenge. We can skip that too. We can just give people the questions, so they have them if they want them, and okay, I think I think letting people skip questions when you're trying to connect with someone is also a valid thing to know. Um, what's something you'd like to do with our family that we haven't done yet? Oh, I know what I'd like to go skiing, hmm.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that'd be fun.
Speaker 2:I'll take that answer too. If you could have a superpower for a day, what would it be and how would you use it?
Speaker 1:Um, teleportation, I would do that, and then I would like go visit a whole bunch of different like places.
Speaker 2:That would be really cool. Yeah, I'm going to steal that too, because I was going to say flight, but I like teleporting better. We're almost done. What's the best piece of advice you've received from someone recently? Make mistakes, make mistakes almost done. What's the best piece of advice?
Speaker 1:you've received from someone recently. Make mistakes, make mistakes. That's mine. I don't know that anyone's given me like specific advice and like that I can remember recently you'll give me good advice, it's just not coming to my mind.
Speaker 2:What is coming to my mind is that song letting go, where it talks about um, the trick is simply to surrender. And then at the end of the song it's like make mistakes, make mistakes, make mistakes. And it keeps saying it make mistakes, make mistakes.
Speaker 1:And I'm like, yeah, this is good, I think probably like me talking to my counselor and her being like it's okay to not overanalyze everything and just to do, to just be and to do less like, and I keep saying that, but that was like a oh aha kind of moment for me yeah, um, what's the best memory you have of us spending time together? Well, the wedding dress that comes to my head, like doing that. I was just so like perfect.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that was good. I like I like to think about when we used to watch Gilmore girls together and when we used to watch yeah.
Speaker 1:When we watched the bachelor on that like pillow, yeah, that pillow bed there. Like pillow yeah. That pillow bed there for like forever.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and then you would give me the best foot massages in the world, like I just laughing with you coming to visit you at camp, yeah, oh, going to New York, oh, yeah. New York, yeah, when you were 16, that was so fun.
Speaker 1:When I came and told you that I was engaged, that was like such a special, like moment. Yeah, when I called you, yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2:No, yeah, I loved when you came and told me in the hotel and we were jumping up and down.
Speaker 1:Yeah, what do you think you're really good at and why do you enjoy it? I think I'm good at listening. I enjoy it because I think people want to feel heard and that I feel the same way and I enjoy being that person for others.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you are good at that. I think I'm really good at Helping kids love to read.
Speaker 1:True, that is true.
Speaker 2:What scares you most about the future?
Speaker 1:I don't really know that I like feel fearful of the future. I just feel like it like, yeah, I don't have fear surrounding the future, it's just it will be what it is. I don't really want to have fear around the future no, I I don't either.
Speaker 2:I don't want to either, and even if I start thinking about things that might, I don't like, I don't want to be scared about that yeah, I'm like that's.
Speaker 1:I don't like that question.
Speaker 2:I don't have that. I don't have that either. Um, what's the best thing? This is the last one. What's the best thing that has happened you so far in your life?
Speaker 1:I would say, jake, just like having him in my life and like being like my person, like my foundation, and like building like a life with him.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I say you and Jackson, you and Jackson, definitely they're the best best part of my life. I also feel, you know, recently I was talking about, I was talking to my mastermind about um, like not putting pressure on you and not telling you that you ended, you were responsible for ending generational trauma. And um, and my friend was like wait, she's like stop. She's like you, you did that. And um, and I'm like what do you mean? And she's like you know, you, you left. She's like that took a lot of courage. And you, you stopped. And I, I didn't give myself. I've never given myself credit like that and um, because I've always thought of it as such a sad thing, that for everyone. But um, but I don't think it was, I don't think it was sad for everyone. I mean I think it was sad for everyone. But I mean it was sad for everyone.
Speaker 1:I mean I think it was sad for everyone but I mean, I think, I think that coming out on the other side, we all yeah, yeah. Yeah, I mean I it was important from?
Speaker 2:was it really important for me to like protect us and stand up for myself? Yeah, and um value myself enough to like stop. And then you know, obviously there's trauma around it and I hate that part of it. But but that, that's just life yeah, um, also really enjoyed graduating salutatorian from Full Sail when I was getting my master's. That was one of my favorite things. That's cool. All right, we answered all five yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, awesome. Well, if you practice this, if you do this with your child, with your parent, let us know how it goes. Does it make you feel more connected? I mean, I feel more connected, yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, we will see you in two weeks. Like, subscribe, follow along, leave us a review and if you have questions, comments, thoughts or emotions, put them in the comments below. Bye.
